Cedar Counseling & Wellness

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Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy in Annapolis, Maryland

 

Relationships can bring our greatest joys in life. They can also be a source of significant pain. Many couples struggle at one point or another with conflict.

 

Fortunately, you can work through these issues while learning skills to make your relationships more satisfying going forward. At Cedar Counseling & Wellness, we provide couples and marriage counseling for those in the Annapolis area.

Common reasons couples seek therapy

 

Couples seek therapy for various reasons, often aiming to enhance their relationship and address specific challenges. Common motivations include:

  • Communication Difficulties: Struggling to express thoughts and feelings effectively can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Therapy provides tools to improve dialogue and foster mutual understanding.

  • Emotional Distance: Over time, partners may feel they’ve grown apart, leading to a lack of intimacy and connection. Counseling helps identify underlying issues and rebuild emotional bonds.

  • Trust Issues: Infidelity or other breaches of trust can severely impact a relationship. Therapists assist couples in navigating these challenges and rebuilding trust.

  • Financial Disagreements: Conflicts over spending habits, savings, and financial priorities are common. Therapy facilitates discussions to align financial goals and reduce tension.

  • Parenting Conflicts: Differing parenting styles or challenges with children can strain relationships. Counseling offers strategies to co-parent effectively and maintain a united front.

  • Life Transitions: Major changes like moving, career shifts, or becoming empty nesters can disrupt relationship dynamics. Therapy supports couples in adapting to these transitions together.

  • Premarital Counseling: Engaged couples often seek therapy to prepare for marriage, addressing potential issues and setting a strong foundation.

 

Recognizing and addressing these concerns through therapy can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Types of treatment we use

 

Each couple has a unique history and situation. Our counselors will customize their treatment approach to you. Our therapist’s dynamic approach emphasizes honesty, accountability, and breaking unhealthy patterns in relationships. We help couples:

 

  • Recognize and shift destructive relational habits

  • Develop tools for direct and compassionate communication

  • Rebuild intimacy and connection through authenticity

 

As we do this, we’ll also operate from a foundation of well-researched therapies. Here’s a look at the types of treatment we offer.

 

Emotionally-Focused Therapy

 

Emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) is based on the idea of attachment. Humans are meant to bond with each other, and how we do that depends on our own histories, and the patterns we’ve developed with each other. In EFT, you’ll learn, among other things:

 

  • How attachment plays a role in your relationship

  • How to listen more openly to each other

  • How to express your feelings more clearly

  • How your negative reactions may actually be due to a need for closeness

  • How to focus on connection as you move forward together

 

The Gottman Method

 

The Gottman Method, or Gottman therapy, is one of the most popular treatments for couples. 

 

This approach teaches a set of specific skills to help you better understand and communicate with your partner. You’ll also practice activities that will help you be more accepting and empathetic towards each other.

 

Some of the areas you might focus on are based on Gottman’s “Sound Relationship House.” These topics include:

 

  • Learning how to be friends again while having fun with each other

  • Sharing your fondness and appreciation with each other

  • Turning towards your partner rather than emotionally avoiding them

  • Learning how to appreciate your relationship while giving your partner the benefit of the doubt

  • Learning new ways to understand and deal with conflict

  • Building a future together based on your shared dreams and goals

 

 

What Makes a Couple Ready for Therapy?

 

Couples therapy works best when both partners are ready to engage in the process. Signs of readiness include:

  • Commitment to the relationship: Both partners are invested in improving their bond.

  • Commitment to scheduling and attending sessions regularly: Consistency is key to progress.

  • Willingness to acknowledge individual roles: Both partners are open to reflecting on how their behaviors impact the relationship.

  • Alignment on goals for therapy: You agree on what you hope to accomplish together.

 

Signs You May Not Be Ready for Couples Therapy

 

In some situations, couples therapy may not be the best fit. For example:

  • Unsure of commitment: Couples therapy is appropriate when both individuals are motivated to work on their marriage. If one or both of you is not sure about the marriage, Discernment Counseling may be a better fit for you.

  • Unwillingness to acknowledge contributions to problems: Progress requires honesty and self-reflection.

  • Lack of alignment on therapy goals: Disagreement on objectives can hinder progress.

  • Contraindications to couples therapy: Situations involving domestic violence, ongoing affairs, or active addiction often require individual support and resolution before couples therapy can be effective.

 

 

What to expect 

 

  1. To find the right therapist for you, learn about our clinicians here.

  2. Schedule your intake session. 

  3. Start therapy. The first step is for us to get to know each other. We’ll get a better idea of what’s going on, and help you understand what’s happening below the surface. Once you have more clarity about where you are and where you want to be, you can set goals to work towards the life you want together.